It would be generous to call that a plan.

I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way at all but this is a very white perspective. No minority (including myself) would default to that option and even many white people are wising up.

The important point here is that the relationship occurred within the workplace. No one would care if it were just your run of the mill affair. He isn’t the first president, nor is he the last, to have one of those.

I’m not a woman but will speak on what little I know from life experience.

From a woman’s perspective, an offer to share intimacy is not necessarily validating in the way a similar offer may be received by a man.

For some, perhaps many, women there is the looming question of whether an offer of intimacy is simply a man looking to make them the object of their sexual gratification. Many women are not interested in that.

As men, we’re not used to getting offers. So much so that when we get one it makes our day, week, month etc. For many women, the challenge is not getting offers, but there is a looming question of whether the offer genuine. What is the intention of the person showing interest? It’s not that men aren’t also concerned with these questions. It’s just that, for a variety of reasons, the stakes are lower for men. So they spend less time thinking about them and more on just being excited someone noticed them.

An unsurprisingly one sided perspective on gentrification with no attention given to the displacement and economic exclusion of those already living in those ‘ghettos’ and ‘hoods’.

Can communities built on a settler mindset ever reconcile their past and grow beyond it? Or will it always be ok as long as the people that do it have money and dress / act / talk the way some may like?